How (and why) I introduced gender identity to my 3-year-old son

by guest blogger Shannon Cofrin Gaggero My husband and I are striving to raise our children outside the confines of traditional gender norms. We are not raising our kids without gender influences altogether, but we are actively trying to create space…

We are a family…not an “alternative” family

by guest blogger Janet Alperstein, Ph.D I have heard that my son and I are an “alternative family” too many times. It was said by people who meant well, but it hurt. While my son didn’t overhear many of these…

Confronting White bias: Bringing my research to my parenting

Confronting White bias: Bringing my research to my parenting

by guest blogger Richard Milner, Ph.D As an African-American, middle-class professor of urban education, I am constantly bridging my research with my parenting responsibilities, reflecting on discourse and actions I take with my children as I attempt to help them…

“Are you a boy or a girl?”: Helping young children think through gender

“Are you a boy or a girl?”: Helping young children think through gender

by guest blogger Katie Schaffer I’m a queer woman with short hair who often wears button ups and slacks. (I use the word queer to talk about myself because it provides space for the recognition that both gender and sexuality…

When race and gender intersect: What I want my daughter to know about beauty

When race and gender intersect: What I want my daughter to know about beauty

by Sachi Feris On a trip to Walgreens, my daughter found some Doc McStuffins stickers—a Disney television series featuring an African-American girl who wants to be a doctor. I had purchased Doc McStuffins playing cards for my daughter a few…

My children’s experiences with internalized racism

My children’s experiences with internalized racism

by guest blogger Ben Wright My children are mixed heritage children—Latina (my partner) and White (me). They have internalized more racism and other oppressions than I would like and it comes out in a variety of ways. My partner and…

Janet Alperstein, Raising Race Conscious Children

“Momma, why aren’t there more boy teachers?”

by guest blogger Janet Alperstein, Ph.D In the fall of 2005, I sat in my parents’ living room where a postcard on a bookshelf read “Raise Boys And Girls The Same”—and told them that my adoption plans were moving forward…

What Malala taught my two-year-olds

What Malala taught my two-year-olds

by guest blogger Melissa Le I am a classroom teacher in a pre-school in Brooklyn, NY. I am Vietnamese-American—my parents are from Vietnam. For most of the children in my class, this is their first time in a school environment….

Talking About Bi-Racial Families with My Daughter, Raising Race Conscious Children

Talking about bi-racial families with my daughter

My daughter has been playing with her vintage Fisher Price people on a daily basis since she was about a year old.

In one routine game, she puts the “children” (who are slightly shorter) in a circle and sings the “goodbye song.” Then, each“adult” (a slightly taller figure) picks a child up from school. When she first started playing this game, she would assign adults to children randomly, almost never putting them in the same pairs, and with no consideration to their physical appearances. The only thing she was emphatic about was that every child had to be paired with one adult.

Just When I Thought My Daughter Wasn’t Listening, Raising Race Conscious Children

Just when I thought my daughter wasn’t listening…

Last month I had a stomach flu and succumbed to my daughter’s request for more minutes than usual of watching videos. First, we watched “Los pollitos dicen,”, a song about chicks and a mama hen.